daddy - the heart of the issue

Helping Post-Abortive Men

2005-07-07T21:28:00.000+01:00

Helping Post-Abortive Men: "A man may feel confused about his role as a father. He may even feel rage over his helplessness in protecting his children as a result of the lack of a father's rights. Vicki Thorne of Post-Abortion Reconciliation and Healing states, 'These fathers are in incredible pain. It doesn't matter what role they had in the abortion, they griee full time. The men who tried to

It is up to us to find a way to save our children.

2005-02-14T10:30:00.000Z

Female Perpetration of Child Sexual Abuse: An Overview of the Problem: "In the State of Washington, for example, one human services professional reported that when an accused female offender was brought before a judge, the judge declared, 'women don't do things like this,' and dismissed the case. In another case, a New England prison warden told Goldman that she had only one woman in her system

UK Justice | Articles

2005-02-11T13:03:00.000Z

UK Justice | Articles: "The Parental Alienation Syndrome, so named by Dr. Richard Gardner, is a distinctive family response to divorce in which the child becomes aligned with one parent and preoccupied with unjustified and/or exaggerated denigration of the other, target parent. In severe cases, the child's once love-bonded relationship with rejected/target parent is destroyed. "

The War Between the Sexes

2005-02-02T17:37:00.000Z

The War Between the Sexes: "There is little scholarship on the subject, no conferences, and the struggle between the sexes is so one-sided that the brainwashed victims are not even aware of their plight." Today, In Defense of Women is sort of a reverse-cult classic. Women intuit that what Mencken disseminates is dangerous and sheds light on what their sorority would just as soon see remain

2004-12-04T09:45:00.000Z

One more dad tries to see their child. One more mum starts throwing mum. TYPICAL!

Today I feel depressed

2004-11-20T15:45:00.000Z

I got to speak to my 4 year old boy today. His mother has obducted him and taken him to another part of the UK. Unfortunatly the nature of the being rather injust at the moment means taht a long battle to bring him back will now begin. He seemed well but soon did something that no human has ever done before - he saddened me into total silence. You see he was telling me I had "been naughty".

Telegraph | News

2004-11-17T18:35:00.000Z

Telegraph | News: "As an IT Project Manager with a Computer Science degree I find this staggering. I have a daughter who lives with her mum, who has applied to the CSA. They have now taken 12 weeks to calculate how much I need to pay, despite the fact that the formula is: 15% of (Net Pay -15% (for my other child) ) I can work that out on the back of an envelope in one minute. Unfortunately due to

Fathers-4-Justice Liverpool

2004-10-18T08:35:00.000+01:00

Fathers-4-Justice Liverpool: "Yet it's women who initiate 70 per cent of divorces because eight out of ten women say they are unhappy. And why, asks Geldof? Because 'men don't talk', they won't give women entry into their thoughts, their world, their souls."Actually "love" we men would rather be unhappy than loose our children!

Time to call it a day

2004-09-02T18:02:00.000+01:00

It is time, I feel to draw a line under this episode. It is time perhaps to address the issues behind the issues behind the issues behind the stories behind the news... I will be starting a new site. I will list resources as I find them (As GFA-uk tried to do) but I will be addressing the subject to an entirely different section of society - it's moral compass - the church. Link to follow...

News

2004-07-22T13:11:00.000+01:00

News: "Parents who refuse their former partners access to their children after separation or divorce could be ordered to pay compensation or sentenced to community service under government proposals published yesterday." This is step in the right direction but doesn't go far enough.

ic Liverpool - Fathers attack new access plans

2004-07-21T11:00:00.000+01:00

ic Liverpool - Fathers attack new access plans: "Earlier this month it was reported that senior ministers were considering equal custody, a norm in some countries, to tackle the growing issue of fathers' rights, but the Green Paper is expected to stop short of recommending enshrining 'shared parenting' in law." ...and therefore fail to protect us dads (again).

Men's Hour: Church of England supports women and children but not men. Rugby tackle for Fathers 4 Justice founder Matt O'Connor.

2004-07-17T22:29:00.000+01:00

Men's Hour: Church of England supports women and children but not men. Rugby tackle for Fathers 4 Justice founder Matt O'Connor.: "Fathers 4 Justice leader Matt O'Connor was earlier rugby tackled and dragged out of the service by church members. As he picked himself up he shouted: 'Remember, half a million children are deprived of contact with their fathers and the church does nothing. 'Shame

Telegraph | News | Give equal access to fathers, demands Howard

2004-07-14T09:11:00.000+01:00

Telegraph | News | Give equal access to fathers, demands Howard: "A Tory government could give divorced fathers equal access to their children, Michael Howard said yesterday, as he called for a change in the 'fairly chaotic' law on child custody. He promised a wide-ranging review of legislation that would seek to shift the focus of access orders away from the mother, following complaints of

The Gender-Freedom Alliance UK: I Hate Men Moderated forum

2004-07-10T12:59:00.000+01:00

Update to the man hateing center: The Gender Freedom Allience have emailed Network54 who host the site and this is what they said: The Gender-Freedom Alliance UK: I Hate Men Moderated forum: "Network 54 has received your email in re: to the Terms of Use violation. We will evaluate, if we find a violation of the ToU, in our discretion, we will take the appropriate action. Thanks your for your

all MEN are created equal

2004-07-02T00:07:00.000+01:00

all MEN are created equal: "Look at the profiles for Child Abuse. In spite of the spectacular cases lately where the Mothers have killed their kids. Susan Smith, the five kids in Texas, the case in LA, and so on, who is the one listed on the papers passed out at the doctor's offices as 'somebody to watch out for'? Men. WHEATON, Ill. - Rejecting a claim of insanity, a jury found a 44-year-old

I Hate Men Moderated forum

2004-07-01T23:51:00.000+01:00

I Hate Men Moderated forum: "This is the I Hate Men Moderated forum. You must be a NetWork54 user in order to use this board. Since its quicker to delete your account then it is for you to create a new one trouble makers will be removed. Have a Nice Day!" What do these fem-Nazi's think they are playing at? It is hard enough being a father and dealing with the funny looks you get with out this

It is time to tell the inner story

2004-07-01T23:13:00.000+01:00

It is time for us Dads to tell the full story - not just the facts and cold statistics but the inner story: the feelings, the pain, the loss and the fear. How can we expect others to understand unless we give them something to understand? Tell your story here you do not have to give your name

Men and Divorce law in England

2004-06-27T22:43:00.000+01:00

: "All of the above makes the divorce process a particularly difficult one for most husbands. The system is weighted against them in many different way although, of course, one can argue about whether or not that is proper. The point remains, though, that divorce can lead many men to feel that they have suffered major injustice" If you continue to anger 50% of the population you surely risk the

MenWeb - Men's Issues. Working with Violent Women

2004-06-26T23:50:00.000+01:00

"The quiet manipulative terrorist usually is the most undetected terrorist. Through the subtle creation of perpetual turmoil, this terrorist may virtually drive other family members to alcoholism, to drug-addiction, to explosive behaviour, to suicide. The other family members, therefore, are often misperceived as the 'family problem' and the hidden terrorist as the saintly woman who 'puts up

The Law in the UK

2004-06-25T23:01:00.000+01:00

I wonder what the a solicitor would say to the question of what would be the minimum requirments for a court to give residency to a father and the same question about a mother?

In My In Box

2004-06-18T00:06:00.000+01:00

This message arrived in my email recently... I can only hope for my son that it is somewhat true. Dear Supporter, 10th June 2004 'Conservatives back Dads Campaign' The ongoing campaign by controversial fathers group Fathers 4 Justice (F4J) gained political support for the first time yesterday from the Tory Leader Michael Howard. The Rt Hon Michael Howard QC MP said: "With around 4 million

In my email

2004-05-31T12:47:00.000+01:00

Keeping abreast of the issues often means that I end up on odd mailing lists. Today I saw this in my in box: This years Fathers Day Civil Rights March is set to be the biggest and best yet and will start at 9.00 - 10.30am at the PaperMill Cafe Bar, 2/6 Curtain Road, London EC2A 3NQ. Dress code is strictly all purple, paint your face and hands purple 'Braveheart' style - bring purple flags,

BBC NEWS | UK | 'Dads army' steps up fight for rights

2004-05-21T10:21:00.000+01:00

They say: "'What we intend to do is introduce schemes to encourage parents to mediate more, with the help of experts, and come to their own arrangements. Orders agreed by parents themselves are more likely to be adhered to.' " But expirence tells us that when a mothers only vow left unbroken is I will do whatever it takes to ensure you never see your child again these sessions are just another

BBC NEWS | UK | 'Dads army' steps up fight for rights

2004-05-21T10:14:00.000+01:00

Figures show that mothers gain custody in four out of five disputes - F4J believes that 40% of fathers subsequently lose contact with their children within two years. Mr O'Connor says some of these cases will be due to fathers turning their backs, but he claims that the "vast majority" are due to mothers denying access. Heroes to

meridiantv.com

2004-05-20T11:20:00.000+01:00

Police are continuing to question two men from Sussex Tony Blair was hit by a purple flour bomb in the House of Commons. Ron Davies, who is a 44-year-old father of two from Worthing, and Guy Harrison from Steynning, were arrested after the powder was thrown during Prime Minister's Question Time yesterday. They are members of Fathers for Justice, a group campaigning for greater access to children.

Mankind

2004-05-19T08:23:00.000+01:00

"Nowhere is this more obvious than in the field of Family Abuse,where not only is there no help on offer, but the official view is that men are the main perpetrators and as such all resources are directed towards females."

Thought for the Day from man2man (U.K.)

2004-05-19T08:12:00.000+01:00

A man that has suffered from emotional and physical abuse for years without once hitting his wife or partner is not a wimp, he is a real hero. A hero that patiently, with a great love and massive compassion seeks to find any way he can to pacify the women he loves without violence. He will talk to her for hours. He will strive to remain calm during the most violent storms of cruel and hate

The Battered Husband: from the Volksgaren Project

2004-05-19T07:57:00.000+01:00

This scenario describes a common pattern for abusive women and battered husbands. Not all parts of this scenario are present in every case of husband abuse: Yet most cases of abused men contain the majority of these points: The abusive woman is a serial abuser who, if stopped, is stopped by a violent man. The abusive mother abuses the children as well as her husband. The abused man fails to

Late at night sitting at my PC

2004-05-19T03:59:00.000+01:00

I need to post now. It's 4am and I can no-longer sleep. Since I read the MORI poll I have realised afresh that I am not unique in my suffering. It's not only me that was abused by my wife. But I am alone. Very alone. I had thought that tonight I would write letters and email my closest friends. I thought maybe I would "come out" and tell them what she used to do. Or at least an

Studies - Violence in the home!

2004-05-17T13:19:00.000+01:00

Moreover, since women still get physical custody of children in over 85% of all divorce cases, many men are hesitant to leave, realizing that if they do, the courts will severely limit their access to their children. The sad truth here is that men would rather be beeten regularly and see thier children then leave. What are we doing to ourselves? Men's victimization is a fact. Nevertheless, a

Fathers 4 Justice

2004-05-17T12:55:00.000+01:00

:"A father in a Spiderman outfit, whose six-day protest on the top of a crane over access rights to his daughter cost millions of pounds and infuriated thousands of London commuters, was cleared of causing a public nuisance yesterday. David Chick, 37, a veteran of three similar earlier protests said 'Watch this space' when asked if he would mount another."There seems to be thousands of men just

Fathers 4 Justice

2004-05-17T12:52:00.000+01:00

I believe that the time is right to consider the introduction of laws similar to those in California and Florida, and many other American states, where there is a presumption that when a relationship breaks down the children have a right to equal access to both parents.The author is head of the family law unit at Grahame Stowe Bateson and chief assessor of the Law Society's family law panel.

BBC Here and Now MORI Poll

2004-05-17T12:39:00.000+01:00

BBC Here and Now MORI Poll :: a summary of the finds reported here at the daddy website shows this: Aproximate number of persons subject to physical domestic abuse each year: 3.7 million men 2.6 million women

Discrimination against Men

2004-05-17T09:57:00.000+01:00

The claim that men can not care for children "because they are too viliolent" must not be allowed to stand. It is time to do something men. Don't be bullied by an extreamist minority. BBC Here and Now MORI Poll All serious studies into domestic violence show a roughly equal balance between the genders. Some studies have shown that there is a higher rate of domestic violence amongst lesbian

Discrimination against Men

2004-05-17T09:49:00.000+01:00

"Screening programs are provided for women related cancers such as breast and cervical cancer. However there is no screening of equivalent cancers affecting men such as prostate and testicular cancer. This is very unfair because deaths from prostate cancer are almost as high as deaths from breast cancer and 6.7 times higher than deaths from cervical cancer. The bias is further tilted because

US just as biased (pdf)

2004-05-12T08:39:00.000+01:00

Grands Rapids Opportunities for Women - Economic Literacy Program "Economic Literacy training to low-income women of Kent County, thereby enhancing their ability to independently obtain the necessities of daily life." This gender-biased program further ingrains the victorian expectation that fathers should have little or nothing to do with their children or home life. Life Guidance Service -

Matt's (not so) Private Notes

2004-05-02T21:01:00.000+01:00

"Discrimination against Men: 'Erin Pitzey Following is a quote from Erin Pitzey (received in a personal email) who as the founder of the world's first women refuge should be qualified to comment. She said: '...it saddens me that we even have to have a women's movement and a men's movement but really there was no choice. I couldn't stop the feminist movement from hi-jacking my work in London at my

A letter

2004-05-02T20:54:00.000+01:00

I'd had enough of the utter hopelessness of what I have been uncovering. So I have written a letter to the local MP. He kindly wrote back saying I should meet with him to talk about the "issues". This is a) A brush off or b) A good thing. I am unsure which as yet.

Just Let Me Be a Dad

2004-04-21T13:30:00.000+01:00

Just Let Me Be a Dad: "The author tells us what the fathers who have been through the legal system have to say about their experience: 'If they had it to do again, they all admit they would take their children and run.'"

Blackshirts

2004-04-21T13:28:00.000+01:00

The hard core extream - this could happen in any country at any time. Right now it is happening in Austrailia but how long before this becomes part of UK or US culture? When men feel that meaningless sex has distroied their relationship with their children it is only a matter of time before they want to know of the govenment that protects them - why have you allowed this to happen to me. It

Welcome - Responsible Single Fathers

2004-04-19T14:40:00.000+01:00

Welcome - Responsible Single Fathers: "Let's showcase Dads! It's no secret that there are tens of thousands of single dads out there who are working hard to nurture their family as best they know how. Custodial, Non-Custodial, Joint Custodial, Widowed, or never-married none of it makes any difference. What matters is that we let others know that we exist and that we are making a difference in the

CSA - The new system

2004-04-19T14:18:00.000+01:00

When the CSA cannot get involved if: "If the PWC claims 'undue distress' (this is where the PWC claims to fear harm (physical or otherwise) from the NRP if he is contacted for child support)." PWC = Parent with Care; NRP = Non-residential Parent

Shared Residence

2004-04-19T14:07:00.000+01:00

Shared Residence: "The following year (February 1994) in the Court of Appeal, A v A (Minors: Shared Residence Order) underlined the prevailing view that shared residence orders were 'unusual' and were unlikely to be made if there were still unresolved issues between the parties, including the amount and nature of any contact. Naturally, separating parents, particularly with a father seeking a

Shared Residence

2004-04-19T14:04:00.000+01:00

Shared Residence: "Referring to a scenario in which a child spent a third of his time with one parent and two thirds with the other the Law Commissioners remarked: 'It is a far more realistic description of the responsibilities involved in that sort of arrangement to make a residence order covering both parents rather than a residence order for one and a contact order for the other.'"

Shared Residence

2004-04-19T14:02:00.000+01:00

Shared Residence: "However, in practice, the idealistic concept of parental responsibility has been diluted tremendously. The emphasis shifted almost immediately to focus on the residence order, an emphasis which recognises the real-life situation and which enables an unco-operative residential parent to assume almost total control of a child�s life and restrict or prevent contact with the other

Overseas and Abduction

2004-04-19T13:56:00.000+01:00

I have failed my boy. Had I known this I would ave acted. "...an application can be made for the child's return in the first twelve months..." Abduction: "Under the Act (insofar as it relates to children) a major consideration is that of the child's 'habitual residence'. Under section 41 of the Act the child will be treated as being habitually resident in the original jurisdiction for a period

Statistics

2004-04-19T13:50:00.000+01:00

Statistics: "Percentage of children in fatherless families US 22% UK 20.7% "

Statistics about 'deadbeat dads' and the effects of absent fathers

2004-04-19T13:47:00.000+01:00

Statistics about 'deadbeat dads' and the effects of absent fathers: "90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes" "14 times more likely to commit rape: This applies to boys of course." - sameWhy? Why just assume that only the male is capable of such crimes. There is an inherant gender bias in this report.

2004-04-18T11:55:00.000+01:00

My name is Matt and I am a father.why does that sound like I am at an AA meet and being a father is so bad. I am proud to be a dad. I have four children, one in heaven, one (IMHO in hell) with his mother and whatever man she has got at the moment, and two with me. I have a wife who is an extreamly nice person. She's a real looker and she can cook! She is also great to spend time with and I